Some people want to be talked down to. And some of us? We want to hear exactly how good we are while we’re doing it.
A well-timed “good girl” can hit harder than any dirty word—but why?
I briefly introduced you to praise kinks when we first met, but something this good deserves a little more attention—and its own conversation. If you missed our first secret, you can check it out here.
Most people understand dirty talk as degrading or explicit language that’s only acceptable in the bedroom. But one of its biggest hidden gems is praise. And no, I’m not talking about praise and worship, honey.
So, what exactly is a praise kink?
A praise kink is an intense enjoyment of receiving compliments, approval, or encouraging words during an intimate experience. It can be as direct as “That’s my good girl,” as encouraging as “You’re doing such a good job,” or as simple as “You look so good.”
For some people, praise makes the experience feel more intense while adding to the power dynamic between them and their partner. Being told you’re pleasing someone can create a sense of submission, approval, or reward.
For others, praise isn’t necessarily about control. Those words provide reassurance, recognition, and a boost of confidence. Sometimes, hearing that your partner wants you—and is enjoying what you’re doing—helps you relax, become more present, and feel even sexier.
And praise isn’t limited to “good girl” or “good boy.” It can sound like:
- “You feel amazing.”
- “I love the way you do that.”
- “You look so good right now.”
- “That’s exactly what I wanted.”
- “You’re doing such a good job.”
- “I love making you feel good.”
- “I’m so proud of you.”
Now, I’m not saying you should copy these phrases word for word. Praise should be tailored to you and the person you’re interacting with. What makes one person melt might make someone else cringe—and that’s okay.
Talk about what words, names, and compliments feel good before introducing them during intimacy. Praise should feel exciting and affirming, not uncomfortable or forced. Like every kink, it should be explored with communication, consent, and respect for each other’s boundaries.
So, the next time you’re in the bedroom, try adding a little encouragement to your dirty talk. You may discover that being talked up feels even better than being talked down to.
After all, sometimes the right words are all it takes to turn a good experience into an unforgettable one.
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